Molitor, Brian and Kathleen. Girl’s Passage, Father’s Duty. Lynnwood: Emerald Books, 2007. 180 pp. $13.99. Purchase at Amazon for less.
I recently reviewed Brian Molitor’s book for fathers of boys entitled Boy’s Passage, Man’s Journey, as well as the accompanying DVD discussion with Kirk Cameron (you can read that review here) only to discover he had co-written a book with his wife, Kathleen for fathers and daughters. You can learn more about their Malachi Global Foundation at their website.
Divided into six parts, the Molitor’s look at the importance of raising daughter’s from a father’s perspective. The first part details the roles of a dad with his daughter. The second part offers an apologetic on the importance of planning your relationship with your daughter. It is here where they discuss the power of intentional blessing.
Part three discusses the foundations for celebrations in your daughter’s life while part four offers a daughter’s perspective on having experienced her father’s intentional blessings. Part five seeks to bring the entirety of the book together to help the father create a plan for his daughter. The final part, part six, deals with those fathers who are wounded at having failed their daughter.
It was interesting to see how, on one hand, Paul draws heavily from his previous work Boy’s Passage, Man’s Journey, (think Ecclesiastes 1:9, “There is nothing new under the sun.”) while at the same time carefully explaining how girls are in fact different from boys and ought to be treated as such. That is not to say that they are to be treated differently, but the Molitor’s do acknowledge the importance of this observation.
Perhaps the key issue that needs to be understood is that parenting is intentional and Brian and Kathleen make that abundantly clear in this book. Their willingness to be transparent in where they have struggled but also their willingness to share the biblical principles they have found in their study of Scripture as well as their roles as parents to a daughter.
As a father of three boys first and then two girls, I was not prepared for the difference parenting sons and daughters. I wished I had known of this book before my girls came along though they are only 4 and 3 as I write this review. Nonetheless, having read this resource, I do feel more equipped and prepared to be the godly father my daughters need me to be.
As stated above, I am a father of two girls. It has been a struggle. Reading Girl’s Passage, Father’s Duty was of great assistance. I recommend this book to all fathers frantically seeking that manual they never received at the birth of their daughter. This will be a book you keep close by as you will refer to it more than once over the years of parenting.