Fields, Doug. 7 Ways to be Her Hero: The One Your Wife Has Been Waiting For. Nashville: W Publishing Group, 2014. 208 pp. $15.99. Purchase at Amazon and on Kindle for much less.
Doug Fields has served as a youth pastor and teaching pastor for more than thirty years at Mariner’s Church as well as Saddleback Church in Southern California. He is popular conference and retreat speaker as well. Currently, he serves as the executive director at The HomeWord Center for Youth and Family. You can read more about Doug at his website, DougFields.com.
Divided into 10 chapters, Doug begins with the appropriate chapter title of stop chasing the wind and start chasing your wife. Here, he lays down the gauntlet of what is necessary if you are to truly be the hero in your wife’s life. The second chapter looks at the foundation of the relationship.
Chapters 3-9 offer the seven actions each man must consider when it comes to loving and serving his wife. I can say that most of it has to do with your keeping your mouth shut! The final action is the need to shepherd your wife’s heart. Doug appropriately concludes the book with a chapter on Christ setting the example for the men by loving His Church to the point of dying for her. Men are expected to do the same.
7 Ways to be Her Hero is pretty straight forward. Doug pulls no punches and offers some pretty straight talk on a somewhat difficult, though always timely, subject. I would have liked there to have been more gospel and perhaps the last two chapters being the first two chapters, but Doug’s audience is a bit different.
Since Doug is writing to an extremely wide and ecumenical audience, he paints with broad strokes. He also uses what I would consider fairly crass language though not by today’s standards. For example, the second chapter is entitled “How it got laid” and he claims to be intentional about the double entendre. Granted this will help sell books, but I do believe it should cause one to pause when considering what is being advised in this work.
In the end, his advice is fairly practical and helpful. The discerning reader will see past the silliness and get to the heart of the issue in loving his wife.
I can recommend this work because it is rooted in Scripture and it does offer many solid conversation points among guys. This is a great starting point for men, but, if they will want to take the next step, they will want to read those who have plumbed the deep theological depths of marriage and being a husband.