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God Made All of Me by Justin & Lindsey Holcomb

God Made All of MeHolcomb, Justin S. and Lindsey A. God Made All of Me: A Book to Help Children Protect Their Bodies. Greensboro: New Growth Press, 2015. 32 pp, $14.99. Purchase at Amazon for less.

Introduction

What began back in 2011 as a book to help those affected by sexual assault as well as leaders to provide biblically based counsel to those who have been abused is blossoming into a (sadly) needed ministry for the church today. You can read a couple reviews on the book Rid of my DisGrace and the recently released study guide here.

You can learn more at the website, God Mad All of Me.

Summary

God Made All of Me is a simply-told, beautifully-illustrated story to help families talk about these sensitive issues with two- to eight-year-old children. Because the private parts of our bodies are private, the home is the ideal environment where a child should learn about his or her body and how it should be treated by others. God Made All of Me starts from the fundamental truth that God created everything and applies that truth—the doctrine of creation—to kids and their bodies. It equips parents to talk with both boys and girls about their bodies and to help them understand the difference between the appropriate and inappropriate touch of others.

God Made All of Me allows families to build a first line of defense against sexual abuse in the safety of their own homes.

Review

In today’s sex-saturated, porno-everything, these conversations are more relevant and needed than ever before. They are often difficult conversations to have as well because, as a parent, you don’t want to introduce a problem that is not a problem. Yet, at the same time, you need to have these conversations out of necessity.

Thankfully, the Holcomb’s have written their first children’s book that addresses appropriate and inappropriate touches and the sort. They do this through a conversation between Kayla and David and their mom and dad.

The beauty is that it begins with the first two questions in most catechisms: “Who made you?” “God made me.” “What else did God make?” “God made all things.” Then, they segue into the conversation.  This then roots the entire conversation in the Word of God.

Recommendation

Sadly, this book is needed in every home. It is needed in every church. If you are a Christian doctor or other profession dealing with children, you need this book in your office. It is a simple little book that deals with a most difficult and important conversation. I cannot recommend this children’s book enough.

 

Rid of My Disgrace Small Group Discussion Guide

Rid of My Disgrace SGRid of My Disgrace Small Group Discussion Guide. Justin S. Holcomb, Lindsey A. Holcomb, and Stephanie R. Hurter. Greensboro: New Growth Press, 2015. 96 pp. $14.99. Get if for less at Westminster Books.

Introduction

Back in 2011, Crossway released a book entitled Rid of My Disgrace which dealt with victims of sexual assault. I reviewed that book and would highly recommend you read that review before continuing reading this review.

Summary/Review

This study guide is designed to be an 8-week course in a group setting. The aforementioned book will be needed as the weekly readings will come directly from there.

The first week looks at Disgrace followed by weeks focused on grace, denial, self-image, shame, guilt, anger and fear, and hope. By the end of the study, the participant will be brought face to face with the necessity of the gospel over and over.

Sexual assault is becoming more and more a reality in our porn-saturated culture today. Many churches are not equipped to deal with these situations. Thankfully, Crossway and New Growth Press as well as the Holcomb’s and Stephanie Hurter have written this study guide that is pointed and full of love and compassion for the hurting.

The participant will answer a number of questions from the reading and will be assigned a journaling topic along with a suggested Scripture to memorize. Then, during the support group or group study time, there are guidelines to follow and Scripture to discuss in addition to the times of meditation to cultivate in a group setting in order to bring it home for personal meditations.

This study is designed to encourage genuine gospel healing for victims of sexual assault. It is centered squarely on the participant’s need of Christ and grace. It is not, however, centered on the participant. Rather, the author’s recognize the problem that the participant has dealt with and helps them to focus outward on Christ and others, as commanded in Scripture, rather than internally and spiraling down into depression or worse.

Recommendation

If you are looking for a resource to minister to victims of sexual assault or are in need of ministering as a victim of sexual assault (first, contact your pastor or another trusted Christian!) then  you have found your resource. I recommend this resource to all pastors to have on hand and ready to use. This may be a ministry that is desperately needed in your congregation or community and you are not aware of it. Read the book and equip yourself to become more aware.

 

Rid of my Disgrace by Justin S. and Lindsey A. Holcomb

Rid of my Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault.  Holcomb, Justin S. and Lindsey A. Holcomb.  Wheaton: Crossway Books, 2011.  272 pp.  $15.99.  Purchase at Westminster for $10.71.

Introduction

This is another invaluable resource from the RE:LIT series of books published by Crossway and theResurgence.  While the Holcomb’s may not be household names, what they are doing should be known in every household.  Justin is a pastor at Mars Hill and a Professor at Reformed Theological Seminary.  Lindsey currently counsels victims of sexual assault.  She previously worked at a sexual crisis center providing intervention to victims of assault.  She also worked at a domestic violence shelter.  In other words, these two know what they are talking about.

Summary

The book is divided into three parts with an introductory chapter entitled Disgrace and Grace.  The first part looks at the disgrace of sexual assault.  Only two chapters long, this may be the most formative and foundational two chapters (perhaps that is why they are two and three?) of the book.  In chapter one, the reader will have sexual assault defined and in chapter two learn what are the effects of sexual assault.  It makes sense that part two is so much longer since the act of sexual assault is so quick while the ramifications last a lifetime.

Part two is comprised of six chapters and looks at true life stories of women and men who have been sexually assaulted.  Chapter titles include denial, distorted self-image, shame, guilt, anger, and despair.  Perhaps the most sobering statistic that sets up the entire book (and I think worth mentioning here) is “At least one in four women and one in six men are or will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetime” (p.13).  One finds this sobering stat displayed in the various true-life stories on the pages of this second section.

Part three is understandably the most needed part of the book as here, the reader will understand how to apply the accomplished grace and mercy of Christ to the victim(s) of sexual assault.  Chapter 10 looks at sin, violence, and sexual assault while the last two chapters share the grace found in the old and new testaments.  The book concludes with an authoritative bibliography that is most helpful as well as a general and scriptural index for Rid of My Disgrace.

Review

Sexual Assault is one of those skeleton’s in our closet that is most often left in the closet.  The Holcomb’s masterfully deal with an extremely sensitive subject.  Their definition of sexual assault (found on page 28) shows just how wide spread this heinous crime is today.  They move from the act of the assault itself through the stages of the victim following the assault to the application of a sweet balm only provided by the Word of God through the power of the Holy Spirit.

There is no finger pointing and no blame-shifting found in these pages.  What the reader will find is a comforting and understanding shoulder to lean on.  More importantly, the necessity of the Scriptures screams forth on every page.  As I mentioned above in the summary, the bibliography is authoritative and, in my estimation, worth the cost of the book.

Recommendation

This is one of those resources that you do not realize you need until you need it.  Let me shoot straight for a moment, if you are a pastor, you will be encountered with the evil of sexual assault.  What will you say?  Can you offer hope?  Sure, you can offer the gospel, but can you do so in a manner that will be understood by someone who has been violated?

Ok, so you are not a pastor, but you are a Christian.  How will you handle the situation when a friend comes and tells you they have just been violated?  Will you be able to understand, even a little, what they are experiencing?  Not everyone is as prepared as they think for counseling sessions.  This book may sit on your shelf without being needed, but when you need it it will be there and you will be more than grateful to God.

In short, get this book and have it available on your shelf.  It is an invaluable resource that is most necessary.